July 13, 2009
MySpace, Facebook and Divorce
Social Networking and Child Custody
When parents divorce, they often have to find new ways to communicate with each other about their children. Sometimes it’s a good idea to pass a notebook along with the children when they go for parenting time. Sometimes it’s a good idea to set up an account at ourfamilywizard to keep track of important dates on a shared schedule.
MySpace and Facebook
Social networking sites allow you to share content with family, friends, colleagues, strangers, anyone with access to the internet. There is great potential to help you keep in touch with people, but it also has great potential to help you alienate people and look like the worst possible parent.
I urge you to resist the temptation to find out where your former spouse is posting online, and even more, I urge you to resist the temptation to respond to anything he or she posts. Do not start a passive aggressive flame war by posting on YOUR site in reaction to something posted on his or her site. There is no good that can come of this.
Take the High Road during your Divorce or Child Custody Case
If you need to vent, do so over the telephone or a cup of coffee to a friend or trusted family member. Do not post it publicly and permanently on a website where people will see and judge you for it. People do not know your whole history, and posting a one-word essay on the unfitness of your former spouse is not likely to make anyone agree with you – they are more likely to turn against you.
Social networking gives you the opportunity to practice taking the high road, and to make choices that are concerned with the best interest of your children. That includes refraining from fighting or vilifying the other parent in a way that will only vilify yourself.