Home for the Holidays?
Holidays and Children and Divorce
As a parents facing divorce, the biggest question you will face is determining custody and parenting time for your children. This includes not only the day to day scheduling issues, but also the important days of the year that involve the holidays.
Holidays must be addressed by every parenting schedule. It is a question that must be addressed by every family; however, the answer to that question depends on your particular family.
What a parenting time plan MUST include is a schedule that address where the children will be on the major holidays and vacations during the year. This includes New Years Eve and Day, Spring Break, Easter, Memorial Day, 4th of July, Labor Day, Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, Hanukah, and other that may be important to your religion and culture.
Vacations and Children and Divorce
Additionally, parents may wish to reserve a one-week or two-week period during which they can take a vacation with the children. Usually this is reserved to spring break, winter break, and summer break time periods so that the children’s school is uninterrupted.
Details and Children and Divorce
What I typically see in a parenting plan holiday schedule is that the parents alternate years – in even years, mom has the children for Christmas Eve, and dad has them for Christmas Day; in odd years, they switch. It is also important to consider which holidays matter most to you. Is it ok for your children to be with your spouse for Thanksgiving, Easter, and Christmas Day all in the same year? If not, then you should look at the alternating schedule to make sure it reflects what you want to have happen.
Finally, make sure that your schedule specifies whether it covers the Holiday day, or Holiday weekend, and what time periods that covers. Sometimes Thanksgiving is just one day, sometimes it’s a 4-day weekend. Sometimes Christmas Eve ends at 10 PM; sometimes “Christmas Day” starts at 10 AM the next day. It is important to discuss these potential solutions with your spouse at the time you draft your parenting time plan. It is not safe to assume that you and your spouse will work on the same time frame once things are in place!
Emily M. Matson, Esq.
Plymouth, MN 55447
May 30, 2009
Financing Life during a Divorce
Divorce and Earning Some Extra Cash
One of my goals as a divorce attorney is to assist my clients obtain sufficient support to maintain their assets and meet their reasonable monthly needs during a divorce. However, as families separate from one household into two, there might not be quite enough money to finance both households and the costs of a divorce. In these cases, my clients often look for ways to make a little extra money each month. If you find yourself in that category, and you consider yourself “crafty”, take a gander at www.etsy.com. It’s a place to sell your arts and crafts (or buy them from other people). I am not “crafty” but found the site inspirational.
Divorce and Managing your Personal Finances
Sometimes, divorce makes a person realize that they don’t know the first thing about how to run their personal finances. I have read a lot of books on personal finance, but my favorite is by Jerrold Mundis. “How to Get Out of Debt, Stay Out of Debt, and Live Prosperously for the Rest of Your Life,” will help you develop a personal spending plan, reduce and eliminate your debt, and live within your means. Here’s the link: http://www.amazon.com/How-Debt-Stay-Live-Prosperously/dp/0553382020/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1243441837&sr=1-1
Moore Family Law
May 30, 2009
Yet One More Closely Reasoned Essay
On the Seriousness of
Family Law and Estate Planning
Oh, the heck with it! I give up! It’s Spring!
What I’d really like to do today can be expressed thus:
“Get into Reggae Cowboy”
“I Don’t Want to Work”
<With thanks to The Bellamy Brothers and Todd Rundgren.>
Have a great weekend!
Moore Family Law
Why a Depressed Market is not ALWAYS Bad in a Divorce
Divorce provides an economic opportunity for some individuals to start fresh with a pile of cash. Maybe the pile is not quite as high as it could have been, but your buying power might be greater, too. For example, the foreclosure crisis has created an unprecendented opportunity to obtain value for investment. Bargain hunting is also possible in the stock market. It is entirely possible that you can buy more long term investment vehicles with a smaller divorce settlement than you could have in the inflated market two or three years ago.
Your divorce attorney is almost certainly not a financial advisor. When your divorce atterney begins to discuss posssible outcomes for your case, it is time to consult with your financial advisor. You may want to ask your financial advisor to meet with you and your divorce attorney to help you develop a plan of action.
In the meantime, if you find yourself find yourself somewhat panicked by the recession, you might want to read the following piece from the Boston Globe from last year, http://www.boston.com/bostonglobe/ideas/articles/2008/03/23/the_good_recession/. I found it to be quite thought provoking!
Moore Family Law, P.A.